Friday, January 4, 2008
Work Every Possibility Out of Impossibility
View From Window
What about you??
Too Many Problems
Humans are prone to memory failure when problems lump in together. Problem doesn't come singly, and it's very true.
Maybe it is meant to be God's will to test human's heart and brain, maybe it's human who brought linking of single problem to chained problems.
We may not be able to prevent obstacles, but we can select better ways to overcome them.
Sometimes problems may seem more than they should. Perhaps some are not, but we made them problems.
How so? With negative outlook, every small hiccups or events grow to be a problem too big for us to solve. When the hands are full, everything else appears to be surplus.
Example:
I fixed a date for celebration for some occasion with my friends. I woke up in the morning, with anticipation to the evening. It's been a long time since we had a gathering. Many discussions were done and we settled for the best preferred dinning venue and food. Everything was expected to be well.
This day arrived; I dressed well with excitement, hoping the evening would arrive sooner. My friends and I would have a wonderful dinner and many things to talk about.
With a cheery mood, I arrived in the office, only to know that nothing went well. Orders were not fulfilled, operations were not running smooth, system shut down unexpectedly, customers were yelling, manager reprimanded me for the things not in my control. Work was lousy. It affected my mood.
When the day ended in the worst imagined way. I wasn't in the mood to even meet up my friends.
While my friends, who may have their own share of problems at work, at home. They went to the dinner as planned. I called my friends to inform of my intention to cancel the dinner. After much persuasion, and compromise, they changed the venue and time and even food, to accommodate me.
I went there and sulked the whole night thru. When I got home, my mum told me the microwave was not working well, and I flared up on this slightest issue complaining how troublesome it would be to call for a service etc etc, which could otherwise be dealt with in the slightest effort.
Result:
Not only that I didn't enjoy the dinner, I brought my friends moody atmosphere. My mum felt bad about not using the microwave properly. I felt lousy that my problems were simply overwhelming.
To Ponder:
were the incidental matters really problems?
We could segment issues and not to mix them up. If this piece of bean curd turn sour due to improper storage or whatever reason, and we mix other food in it, the whole dish would be equally bad. But if we segment the bean curd, and take other food separately, it would turn out differently. We would still have good food, while managing the bad food. Options are there, to make smelly bean curd using the sour bean curd? Or discard it all away. Objective remains same, to manage things separately, be it simultaneously, or stagger it in different time slot. Whatever we do, the other food has no inkling with the problematic bean curd, we have to be fair to the other food. Problems get solved, unless we don't want them to. We can't punish the good food with the bad food's fault.
Even in the midst of solving this problem, we need not be afraid of eating, we can still be hopeful that other good food come along the way. So long we don't mix things up, the good can remains good. Agree? hmmm... get my point?? Also reminding myself this..
Today
It was merely an expression of what I felt at that moment..
The Art of Remembering
The Art of Letting Go
Today my 2 teachers enriched my day with great wisdom
Test of Situations
Sunday
Selfless Love
I learnt to love myself once more, discard the isolated self, and regained Self love and gradually developed selfless love.
First come first, I started to re-appreciate myself as a person who is worthy of love. Once this was achieved, I took a step further, and through a natural course, learned to provide love at zero expectation for returns.
The basic line to live a life is probably beginning from self (Intrisic). A person needs to be sufficed with love to live to the fullest. Yet, to expect love to be provided by another, is asserting pressure on own and others. The simplest way is to self-supply, by simple method of self appreciation.
The strength that love can help you along the rocky path, is not to be belittled. It made me strong. I then managed to, and wanted to love people the way I love myself. I do not instruct people how to love me, but I would rather show people how I love them. Some may feel my sincere heart, some may not. This is not too much a concern to me now. I do not manipulate people, I merely manage my thoughts. I leave people with their rights to choose to be touched or to ignore.
My concern is my ability and capability to express love.
Love doesn't hurt, it heals pain. Love doesn't punishes, love forgives. Love appreciates, and be appreciated. Love doesn't expect, love fulfills.
One of my favorite quotes:
"No one pushes the river, it flows just fine by its own"
I imagined myself gliding along the river flow, and picking up the goodness along the ride. Rocky and steep it may sometimes be, but I don't stop at the less preferred stage, I let it flows on.. As long as there is movement, there is hope for better life. Get past with the bad element, be washed by the river water, ready yourself to receive the goodness of challenges.
Choose to love life, live to love.
Review Your Attitudes
Was put on a emotional roller coaster ride today..
Well spent part of the morning, trying to figure out what, how and when I was put on the ride. hahaa
So I struggled to figure out what was the problem? and how I've got myself trapped in such a situation, whereby I can't find a solution to resolve this problem.
Ahha...!!!
What is 'Problem'?? No problem is too big a problem, until we made them one, when we amplify it. If there is really a problem, and it generates from me, I am certain I can solve it, for problems are meant to be solved. So, what if the problem can't be solved solely by me?
I am willing to solve it, but if my solo effort can't do any help, and yet the other concerned party choose to adopt ostrich problem-solving method? by burying the head to the ground and hide away, thinking that problem is non-existence by covering up own eyes...
Shall I get all upset? Or just 'let go'... It's not a problem anymore, at least it's no longer my problem.
I feel inadequate, but I need to distinguish this away from other emotions. Once get them all confused, I am on the way to depression!!
Today's ride taught me:
-Identify the owner of problem
-Identify the behavior and attitude of the owner
-Remind owner, who adopted ostrich method 'Hey, don't let mental block gets on the way'
-If gentle reminder doesn't help, try this==> 'Hey, is your head too comfy down in the ground? Get stuck by all means!'
Am I being mean? I ached too much for loser's behavior, sometimes, my subtle approach becomes a comfy bed that encourages such behavior, as they take it for granted.. Now.. I need to throw some pain on them...
Actually.. a person only review their problem-solving method, if the problem is big enough to impact them hard, otherwise, what I consider huge, may be tiny to them to even try doing anything...
Huh.. emotion coaster ride... very taxing activity... but.. really exciting, and I'm not fearful
I just need more wisdom to counter each ride
Positive Thoughts Formula
However, if we multiply negative figure by another negative figure, we would get a high positive figure (eg. -5 x -5 = 25)
The difference is by escalating the process of mind thoughts.
I was amazed myself with such development in mind, when I was almost grabbed in complete control of negative power.
Poem of Tears
Poem of Pain
Poem of Memories
Now
We may make plans for the future, for it is wise to set objectives and goals, to provide direction of our journey ahead.
We may review events of the past, for it is important to learn from our past, to better ourselves and improve on our weaknesses.
Set plans in wider scope, not in detailed planning, for plans are not meant to be realised accordingly. No plans are foolproof, therefore, it should be vague, but a flag stalking move to position yourself well to pursuing your dream. 'Time' is always the greatest challenge to fulfilling dreams.
'Past' only serves as memory to be reviewed. Confronting 'Past', we are helpless, for we can't do anything about it, yet it is such important stage we all have to go through, for it made us what we are now. 'Time' has served its duty to accomplish each person's past.
'Now' is what we can do. A fast decisive move decides this moment, even time has not enough time to stop you. The only power we have over time is 'Now', not the future, not the past. Then, we realised how quickly, everything moves on once again. Grab 'Now', don't let it pass without doing your best.
Missing Chapters
Make Peace with Imperfections
Love Others, Believe in Yourself
Love Is Strength
Love Exists in All Forms
Love.. No specific shape, no specific weight, no specific smell
Yet it exists in all forms
Love.. Requires no container to hold it
Requires no scale to weigh it
Requires no dog's nose to sniff it
Love.. Requires on a heart to sense it
I am still enjoying every second of being in love
With or without the physical lover
Love exists in my heart, mind and soul
It requires no efforts from my lover to prove its existence
As long as you are willing to acknowledge it
It will stay as long as you wish
If I am talking about love too much
Simply.. I am embracing love every second of my life now
It is already a part of me
We read about true life stories of people staying in love even after the death of the lover
We doubted if that really was true
I can now testify that it is true
True love, need not many
True love, one is enough to camp you through this lifetime
My love has no boundaries
Centralisation.. and everlasting
