Love Is Strength

To Live is to Feel, To Feel is to Love..

Look around you and you find children everywhere. Do they not look happy and innocently naive? Did we all not been through the days of no worries? Among the happy children, there are some distraught ones that only sadness is seen in their eyes.

All sadness derives from the absence of love.

When a couple bring a new life, what are their mindsets and objectives? Have they considered well enough deep in their hearts and souls, what they can bring out a child with?

All lives feel, and grow to feel. This is what life is all about. When we detach ourselves from feelings, and emotions, we are just zombies living out in the empty shells. If we allow ourselves to descend to this stage, why produce another innocent life to live life our pathetic way?

The folk's trait of 'A family is only complete with children', surely has contributed greatly to more sad, unfulfilled lives of today's world. The spiritual attainment is out of reach with the minds lose their grounds, detaching from the genuine truth of living.

To begin with... A family bond begins with the 2 persons, who are the key elements to form a family bonding.

To start from the right foot, they have to love each other deep enough, so much so that it grows large enough to extend their devotion of love to another new life of their own.

In a box, human are bound with duties and responsibilities to carry on their family line. Some hope to have a child in order to secure their partners (these people probably don't have enough faith and trust, let alone love for each other), the question here is, why is the child a tool to tie them up in the first place? Human must first establish their own grounds before bring a new life around them. They may love each other, but secure own selves first in order to prepare a new path for a new born.

Be fair to our seed of love. The child is not to be responsible for the love-ship of the parents, but turning it around. The parents are liable to what this child may become. The relationships between human are never a simple mathematical sum. We have to deal with it separately. The love you have for your partner is different from the parental love for your child. They are intertwined, but it moves in a circular motion, and one affects another. The main energy generates from the 2 elements, if they stay strong and emits love, the secondary (child) will receive and respond accordingly, and enhance the whole environment.

It's a shame, if the only stories you can share with your child are simply fairy tales or books from some authors whom you don't even know about. These kids' reading stuff instill knowledge to the child, while your true life stories which posses a direct connection to him/her induce wisdom of life. It will live with the child. The child will feel secure in heart/mind/soul when he knows where and how he come to. He will feel proud to be the offspring of a great love.

Child born in genuine love grows up stronger, secured and caring. He can feel and willing to care, and understand love exists in all forms.

On the other hand, if we ever thought of getting a child to bond a relationship, think deeper... The child is likely to grow up feeling responsible and stress out, as the parents have heavily loaded the responsibilities of family maintenance to him, instead of embracing the love a family can offer.

The child born under such great responsibilities is likely to grow up to be an insecure person, hesitant to love, little understanding or misunderstanding what love and emotion are all about. He is likely to live with uncertainties and low confidence, as all relationships seem confused to him.

Look into our childhood, and know why we are what we were. I won't point accusing finger to my parents, but I thank God for letting me understand things beyond my parents knowledge, so that I will not put my child to what I struggled through. I shall live life in pursuit for true feelings, to show my child the strength of love.